Setting a routine and following it smoothly is the major factor that contributes to efficient running of any household. But, a critical question that all the parents' face is: When is the right time to raise the stakes for my child? Be it allowance or responsibilities on day-to-day basis. Every parent has two options, as the child grows up. These are: letting them be babies or helping and guiding them to grow up. Then the concern is, whether are we pushing them to grow up too fast? Hence, it is vital to strike a perfect balance and respecting them for what they are. The first sign to re-evaluate the routine is when the child starts getting jaded and uninterested in the set daily routine of chores and bedtimes.
1. Taking more responsibilities: It is always better to be flexible and willing to appraise routines on daily basis. When your child starts outdoing his assigned chores list, that's the time you can challenge him to add on more responsibilities. Allocate a new task and see if he can do it himself. To your surprise, you might find it completed. But, if not, then you jump in for help. When you notice your child sneaking around and doing something unacceptable, then explain him that it is a privilege for which he might not be ready. At the same time, this behavior is an indication for you to provide him more responsibility and then reward him with more freedom as privilege.
2. Allowance: It is nice to reward the child with praise for completing tasks when they are young and wanting to help you around with daily chores. While most of the daily chores should be attended to without any monetary rewards attached to it, a little additional incentive and raised allowance for harder and difficult jobs will motivate them to do more. The raise can be in any form like: money, freedom or a chance to go somewhere or meet somebody. Also, prior to any raises it is important to be sure about the duration of their allowance, the frequency of raise and your own affordability in the long run. Educating the children about the direct relation between hard work and allowance is a priceless and vital goal for their adulthood.
It is wise to move ahead gently and gradually observe the child's reaction to every change that you bring up. Taking any decision or changing a routine involves a lot of parental instinct.
1. Taking more responsibilities: It is always better to be flexible and willing to appraise routines on daily basis. When your child starts outdoing his assigned chores list, that's the time you can challenge him to add on more responsibilities. Allocate a new task and see if he can do it himself. To your surprise, you might find it completed. But, if not, then you jump in for help. When you notice your child sneaking around and doing something unacceptable, then explain him that it is a privilege for which he might not be ready. At the same time, this behavior is an indication for you to provide him more responsibility and then reward him with more freedom as privilege.
It is wise to move ahead gently and gradually observe the child's reaction to every change that you bring up. Taking any decision or changing a routine involves a lot of parental instinct.
